How we speak creates an impression:
No-one should be told how to speak but it is true that some words and phrases give a better (or worse) impression – and this impression is being created all day, every day, every time we interact. It crops up face-to-face, on the telephone, in emails, in social media posts – the list goes on.
Are you undermining yourself?
So it is worth considering the phrases you use, and whether you could be undermining yourself without realising it.
Do you find yourself saying “Sorry” when an apology isn’t required, or you’ve not heard what someone has said? Obviously you should apologise when you have done something wrong, but using “sorry” as your go-to word in conversation makes you appear submissive or lacking in confidence.
“It’s probably me being stupid, but …”
Prefacing your questions with the phrase “It’s probably me being stupid, but …” (or something similar) is another credibility-killer. Remember, there is no such thing as a stupid question – if you don’t know something, you need to ask.
“Just”can be another submissive word that creeps into our conversation, as in “I was just wondering …” or “Could I just ask you to …”. Using the word isn’t necessary, and it undermines your authority.
At the other end of the scale, swearing can seem aggressive and unprofessional. It can also imply a lack of debating ability, a poor education or a weak vocabulary.
Make sure your pet phrases are house-trained
And there are lots of others, so listen carefully at your vocabulary. It’s easy to get into the habit of using ‘verbal ticks’, pet phrases we use without thinking.
But if they are undermining how you appear to others, they are doing you an injustice – so make sure they are house-trained, and don’t do anything to embarrass you.
So remember: Empower yourself – speak positively and let everyone see how good you really are.
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About Nicola Fox Dip. THP (N-SHAP)
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