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Fears & phobias are real – but they don’t need to be permanent

Posted by Nicola Fox on March 20, 2018  /   Posted in Confidence Hints and Tips
Fears and phobias are real - but you can stop being frightened.

Fears and phobias are real – but you can stop being frightened.

What are you frightened of?

On a chat show this week, one of the contributors admitted to a fear of the sound of an apple being eaten.

This caused some hilarity in the studio – he smiled bravely while some of the other contributors laughed or pretended they were going to crunch into one of the bright green apples on the table.

But his courage was rewarded – the therapists on the show were able to help him.  And he can be really proud too – because his bravery will inspire other sufferers to ask for help too.

If you are not frightened of something, it can be difficult to understand why other people are, especially if the thing they are scared of seems “ordinary”.

But to the person with the phobia, it’s not funny at all – it’s very real and very frightening.

Hypnotherapy can be really effective for treating fears and phobias.

Using hypnotherapy, I’ve successfully treated people for fears and phobias that have severely affected their lives – fears and phobias of things that other people handle easily or barely notice.

Maybe you would be surprised at the horror that can be induced by:

  • wooden spoons
  • buttons
  • escalators
  • the sound of clocks ticking

And then there are more commonly recognised phobias:

  • public speaking, presentations or interviews
  • spiders
  • heights
  • dogs
  • flying
  • claustrophobia – the list goes on.

Fears come in all shapes and sizes

But the good news is no-one needs to put up with them, no matter what they are afraid of.

Hypnotherapy can help

I’ve successfully treated people for fears and phobias they’ve had for years and seen hypnotherapy set them free – and with their new confidence, their life is transformed.

So, if you, or someone you know, would like to know more about how hypnotherapy could help you with fears or phobias, go to the “Contact Me” tab at the top of this page and book a free 15-minute telephone consultation.

You don’t have to live in fear – free your mind and be the best that you can be.

 

About Nicola Fox Dip. THP (N-SHAP)

I specialise in hypnotherapy and confidence coaching for professional people who want to achieve their full potential, either 1-2-1 or in a workshop environment.

For over 12 years, I have enabled my clients to become more confident, self-assured and better able to achieve their goals.  1-2-1 packages are tailored specifically for each client, personalised to provide individual solutions for their issues.

I offer 1-2-1- therapy, workshops and give talks at events and to groups.

I specialise in hypnotherapy and confidence coaching for:

  • Anxiety
  • Confidence
  • Fear of public speaking, presentations and interviews
  • Imposter Syndrome
  • Motivation
  • Panic attacks
  • Phobias and fears
  • Procrastination
  • Self-esteem
  • Stress
  • Weight loss & related issues
  • Regaining confidence after a crisis – redundancy, divorce, bereavement, etc
  • Relaxation

Find out how hypnotherapy can help you.

Arrange your free, confidential 15-minute telephone consultation by going to the Contact Me tab at the top of this page.

I have hypnotherapy practices in:

London:       

  • Liverpool Street, EC2 and
  • Islington, N1

East Anglia: 

  • Norwich

Ever been insulted? How to stop someone else’s negativity affecting you.

Posted by Nicola Fox on February 26, 2018  /   Posted in Confidence Hints and Tips
Stop someone else's negativity stopping you.

Stop someone else’s negativity stopping you.

Anyone ever called you a name?

We’ve all been described in a way that was obviously meant to be negative or insulting at some stage in our lives. It doesn’t really matter what the name was (although I’m sure it did at the time). What matters is the effect it had on you.

Typically, the person making the insult will have said it to make themselves feel better in some way. For example, some people enjoy making others feel bad as it gives them a sense of power or superiority, or they think it reduces a perceived threat from the person they are insulting. And although it’s wrong, they still do it.

So, what do they really mean?

By describing you in a negative way, they may actually be expressing a positive comment, albeit in heavy disguise. Here are some commonly used negative terms, and the translations into what they could really mean:

Sounds Negative: Actually Positive – what people say and what they could really mean:

  • Aggressive: really means you are Assertive – you know what you want and need
  • Bossy: really means you are Authoritative, capable, organised
  • Emotional: really means you are Able to express what or how you feel
  • Opinionated: really means you are Stating what you think or believe
  • Whinging: really means you are Expressing your dissatisfaction 

The list goes on – but so do the positive interpretations.

So what can you do about it?

Unfortunately you probably can’t change that person’s view on life or about themselves. But the good news is that you can change how those terms affect you. So, when someone throws a negative term at you, do two things:

  1. Think about alternative, positive words they could have used to describe you instead, and
  2. Think about why they may have said it. This usually makes it obvious the problem is with them, not you!  For example, is it due to their own  insecurities? Are they trying to undermine you because they feel threatened or under pressure?

None of these reasons make it acceptable to call you names, but recognising the motivation of the person makes it obvious the problem is not with you – it’s with them and their negativity.

Undo the damage to your self-esteem – and protect yourself in the future.

Hypnotherapy is very effective at re-building your self-esteem and self-confidence.  But here’s something you can try on your own.

Once you’ve recognised it’s their problem, not yours, try this:

  • Think about how you remember the words. They’re probably in the voice of the person who said them. So, try changing the voice to something you find funny – squeaky, cartoonish, ridiculous, the sillier the better. Because when something is said in a ludicrous way, it loses its power. Try it now. An insult in the voice of Mickey Mouse is just nonsense!
  • Once that person’s outbursts are in a silly voice in your mind, they’ll stay in a silly voice in your mind. So if an insult comes along in the future, it’s just ridiculous from the start – and so affects you much less, if at all. And now you know there’s actually a hidden positive statement in there too.

Like any new skill, you’ll need to practice this a few times to begin with, just until it starts to feel natural to you. But once you’ve mastered it, getting upset because of a nasty comment or someone else’s negativity can be a thing of the past.

About Nicola Fox Dip. THP (N-SHAP)

I specialise in hypnotherapy and confidence coaching for professional people who want to achieve their full potential.

For over 12 years, I have enabled my clients to become more confident, self-assured and better able to achieve their goals.  1-2-1 packages are tailored specifically for each client, personalised to provide individual solutions for their issues.

I offer 1-2-1- therapy, workshops and give talks at events and to groups.

I specialise in hypnotherapy and confidence coaching for:

  • Anxiety
  • Confidence
  • Fear of public speaking, presentations and interviews
  • Imposter Syndrome
  • Motivation
  • Panic attacks
  • Phobias and fears
  • Procrastination
  • Self-esteem
  • Stress
  • Weight loss & related issues
  • Regaining confidence after a crisis – redundancy, divorce, bereavement, etc
  • Relaxation

Find out how hypnotherapy can help you.

Arrange your free, confidential 15-minute telephone consultation by going to the Contact Me tab at the top of this page.

I have hypnotherapy practices in:

London:       

  • Liverpool Street, EC2 and
  • Islington, N1

East Anglia: 

  • Norwich

Give Yourself A Confidence MOT (This simple technique shows you how.)

Posted by Nicola Fox on February 19, 2018  /   Posted in Confidence Hints and Tips
Give Yourself A Confidence MOT (This Simple Technique Shows You How)

Give Yourself A Confidence MOT

If your confidence is low, it’s easy to feel down and focus on negative things, which reinforces your low confidence – it’s a vicious cycle.

But how much better would it be if you focused on your positives?

In a world where we are constantly trying to do our best and improve ourselves, it’s easy to forget the skills we already have – and that means we don’t give ourselves the credit or the reward we deserve for all that hard work.

Try this technique

Hypnotherapy is great for enabling you to developing self-esteem and confidence in your own abilities – but here’s technique you can do by yourself:

What would your best friend say?

Think about what your best friend would say if they were describing you and your abilities to someone who didn’t know you – and write it all down.

It doesn’t matter what those abilities are, or whether they are personal or professional skills, just write them down. Maybe you are good at design or computing, maths or baking, creative writing or skiing, gardening or sales – write down whatever your best friend would tell people you are good at.

Be honest, not modest

This needs an honest assessment so don’t be modest.

Once you’ve got your list, take a few moments to re-read it, and think about the things on it (maybe you have skills even your best friend doesn’t know about – if you do, add these to the list and think about these too.)

Acknowledge and Accept

So, now you’ve thought about your list, think about this – at some point in your life, you learnt all these skills. There was a time when you didn’t know how to do any of these things, let alone that you were good at them.

Maybe you remember learning a skill, the moment “the penny dropped” and it all made sense. Maybe you don’t remember actually learning it, or it’s something you acquired over time. Maybe it was easy, or maybe it took real effort.

But how you acquired that skill doesn’t really matter – the point is you did. You went from not knowing how to do something to doing it really well.

So, what’s my point? It’s this – the fact that you learnt those skills and are now good at them means you are capable of learning anything you want to and being good at that too.

Now follow the 3-step MOT (the good news is, it’s really only 2 steps):

So, read that list again, and take the time to do three things:

  1. Give yourself credit for all the things you’ve learnt and done in your life so far.
  2. Recognise that you can do or learn anything you want to – you’ve done it before, so you can do it again.
  3. Repeat Steps 1 and 2 again tomorrow, and every day for 21 days (and then whenever you find yourself doubting your abilities). You’ll find your confidence is up and running.

So give yourself the credit you deserve, take those opportunities and feel your confidence grow. You really can do whatever you want to do.

About Nicola Fox Dip. THP (N-SHAP)

I specialise in hypnotherapy and confidence coaching for professional people who want to achieve their full potential, either 1-2-1 or in a workshop environment.

For over 12 years, I have enabled my clients to become more confident, self-assured and better able to achieve their goals.  1-2-1 packages are tailored specifically for each client, personalised to provide individual solutions for their issues.

I specialise in hypnotherapy and confidence mentoring for:

  • Anxiety
  • Confidence
  • Fear of public speaking, presentations and interviews
  • Imposter Syndrome
  • Motivation
  • Panic attacks
  • Phobias and fears
  • Procrastination
  • Self-esteem
  • Stress
  • Weight loss & related issues
  • Regaining confidence after a crisis – redundancy, divorce, bereavement, etc
  • Relaxation

Find out how hypnotherapy can help you.

Arrange your free, confidential 15-minute telephone consultation by going to the Contact Me tab at the top of this page.

I have hypnotherapy practices in:

London:       

  • Liverpool Street, EC2

East Anglia: 

  • Ipswich, Suffolk

Need more confidence? Hypnotherapy can help

Posted by Nicola Fox on February 06, 2018  /   Posted in Confidence Hints and Tips
Confidence in yourself is crucial to the success of your ideas and ambitions.

Confidence in yourself is crucial to the success of your ideas and ambitions.

“Innovation is almost always not successful the first time out.
You try something, and it doesn’t work, and it takes confidence to say we haven’t failed yet… but ultimately, you become commercially successful.”
– Clayton Christensen, Author and Business Consultant.

Confidence is Crucial

Confidence in your own abilities and how you see yourself is crucial to your success. It gives you:

  • the drive and courage to develop new ideas, try new things, and recognise opportunities, and
  • the resilience and determination to succeed even when things don’t immediately go right.

Hypnotherapy can help

For over 12 years, I have enabled my clients, people like you, to become more confident, self-assured and better able to achieve their goals.

Using hypnotherapy, they have increased their confidence levels to maximise their ability, success and happiness.

Hypnotherapy tailored for you

I tailor hypnotherapy packages to your needs,  personalising them to enable you to find individual solutions for your issues.

I specialise in hypnotherapy for:

  • Anxiety
  • Confidence
  • Fear of public speaking, presentations and interviews
  • Imposter Syndrome
  • Motivation
  • Panic attacks
  • Phobias and fears
  • Procrastination
  • Self-esteem
  • Stress
  • Weight loss & related issues
  • Regaining confidence after a crisis – redundancy, divorce, bereavement, etc
  • Relaxation

Find out how hypnotherapy can help you.

Arrange your free, confidential 15-minute telephone consultation by going to the Contact Me tab at the top of this page.

I have hypnotherapy practices in:

  • London:

    Liverpool Street, EC2
    Islington, N1

  • East Anglia:

    Norwich

8 ways to be confident at interviews (and make a great impression)

Posted by Nicola Fox on January 30, 2018  /   Posted in Confidence Hints and Tips
8 ways to be confident at interviews (and make a great impression)

Expressing yourself confidently at interviews is crucial

Interviews can be stressful, but if you can view them as an exciting opportunity, you’ll lessen the stress.  You can make the experience more comfortable, even enjoyable – so you’ll be more relaxed and more likely to be successful.

Hypnotherapy is a great way to feel confident and self-assured in interview situations, but here are eight tips you can use by yourself:

Always remember – an interview is a two-way process.

Keep in mind that an interview is just as much about you deciding whether a company is right for you, as it is for the company to decide if you are right for them. You are just as important as the interviewer.

Find out as much as you can about the company (and your interviewer) before your interview.

Chances are the interviewer will ask you what you know about the organisation. And even if they don’t ask you outright, they will be able to tell how much research you have done by the tone and content of your answers.

Just as importantly, it will give you the confidence to know you won’t be caught out, and will help you decide if this company is the sort of place where you want to work.

Go to bed early the night before (and a few nights before that too).

If you are tired, or have had a few late nights, it will have a detrimental effect on your confidence levels.  This is because you will find it harder to be articulate and answer questions effectively. Tiredness can also impair your memory and subdue your personality.

Also, research has shown that people who get plenty of sleep are perceived on first meeting as more intelligent and attractive – so get plenty of rest and let yourself shine.

First impressions count.

Research has proved that a first impression is made very quickly – in the first couple of minutes.  And it usually stays fixed, even when people get to know you better.

So, look the part, even if a company’s internal dress code is casual. Smart and professional, clean and well-fitting clothes are always appropriate, whereas ripped jeans, exposed flesh, grubby t-shirts and dirty fingernails never are.

It’s always more than just as chat.

“It’s not really an interview, it’s just an informal chat – right?” Wrong.

It’s always an interview, even if it is done in an informal style, or is with a recruitment agency instead of the actual company. A friendly chat might seem less intimidating, but what you say, and how you look and behave, are just as important in this situation as at something more formal. So giving yourself the best possible chance of success is still through preparation, presentation and concentration.

Smile and be polite to everyone you meet at the company.

You might be surprised at how many interviewers ask the receptionist, or the person who shows you round, what you were like and what they thought of you. And even if they don’t, it will make you look and feel confident and relaxed all the time you are there, which must be good.

Never bad-mouth your existing company.

No matter how justified your opinion is, it will make you look negative and difficult, which is never a good impression to create in an interview situation. Be positive about what you have done/learnt/experienced – it will show you to be a confident, capable person. Which is exactly what you are.

“So, do you have any questions for us?”

This might sound like an easy “end of an interview” question – but don’t be fooled, it’s crucial. This is your chance to demonstrate your ability to quickly process the information the interviewer has given you, show you can analyse that information and that you have an enquiring mind.

But, just in case nerves can take over and your usually enquiring mind stalls, it’s useful to have a couple of questions pre-prepared. Look at the new job description and company information in advance and come up with one or two questions about things you are interested to find out. Then, when the time comes, you can look the interviewer in the eye and ask the question with a genuine desire to know the answer.

Good luck!

About Nicola Fox Dip. THP (N-SHAP)

I specialise in hypnotherapy and coaching for professional people who want to achieve their full potential.

For over 12 years, I have enabled my clients to become more confident, self-assured and better able to achieve their goals. Every therapy session is tailored specifically for each client, personalised to provide individual solutions for their issues.

I specialise in therapy and coaching for:

  • Anxiety
  • Confidence
  • Fear of public speaking, presentations and interviews
  • Imposter Syndrome
  • Motivation
  • Panic attacks
  • Phobias and fears
  • Procrastination
  • Self-esteem
  • Stress
  • Weight loss & related issues
  • Regaining confidence after a crisis – redundancy, divorce, bereavement, etc
  • Relaxation

Find out how hypnotherapy can help you.

Arrange your free, confidential 15-minute telephone consultation by going to the Contact Me tab at the top of this page.

I have hypnotherapy practices in:

London:

  • Liverpool Street, EC2

  • Islington, N1

East Anglia:

  • Norwich

How to get your recruitment consultant to get you the best job

Posted by Nicola Fox on January 18, 2018  /   Posted in Confidence Hints and Tips
How to get the best from your recruitment consultant.

How to get the best from your recruitment consultant.

Getting the right job is crucial to your happiness, and when competition for jobs is fierce, it’s important to have access to all the right options.

One of these is working with a recruitment consultant – and it’s important that this is a relationship that works well for you.

So, how can you make sure it does? Try these tips:

Choose the right recruitment consultants.

Don’t assume all recruitment agencies are the same. They vary greatly in the type of work they do, from those dealing with a variety of employment types to those that specialise in a particular field of expertise, and it’s important for you to find the right one(s). So do your research before you approach them, to make sure they offer/specialise in the type of work you are looking for.

View every interaction with them as an interview. 

Whether you are emailing your CV, discussing options over the phone or meeting with them in person, take the interaction with your consultant as seriously as if it were an interview for your dream job. Be professional, polite and, if you are meeting them in person, look the part. The impression you make with the consultant is crucial – it’s part of their process of deciding whether you are right for a particular job or organisation.

Ensure your CV is relevant.

When you are sending your CV to a consultant for consideration, make sure it is obvious why you are right for the job – use the same job titles and any technical or industry-specific phrases used in the job advertisement, highlight where your skills are an exact match and make use of the covering email/letter to explain more about why you are right for that role, or for a particular company. That way, your CV stands a much greater chance of making it through the selection process.

But don’t be afraid to try:

If you see a job advertised, or are approached by a consultant, and you think you can do the job (and want to do it), don’t hold yourself back. Sometimes people see a job they would really like to go for but don’t, because they think their experience isn’t good enough and assume they’ll be rejected. Deciding what someone else will think without asking them is known as ‘mind-reading’ – and as you can’t really know what they will think unless you try, you’re doing yourself an injustice if you don’t give it a go.

Make it easy for them to see your skills.

A recruitment consultant will see a lot of CVs and will be dealing with more than one vacancy, so you need to stand out and be memorable. Part of the way to do this is to make everything in your CV easy to find and easy to remember. So:

·        Your CV should be no more than two pages long.

·        When listing your employment, start with your most recent job first.

·        Use bullet points to highlight special skills or areas of expertise, rather than long paragraphs.

·        And remember, even if you had your CV written by a professional, you need to look at it every time you apply for a job and make sure it obviously fits the criteria.

Respond quickly when a consultant contacts you.

Sometimes the timing is crucial, so if you miss a call or email from your consultant, get back to them as fast as you can. It’s not only polite; it can make all the difference.

Keep in touch.

You need to regularly contact your consultant, letting them know you are still looking and updating them on any new skills or training you’ve had. That way, you will be instantly memorable when the right job comes up, and they’ll know you are easy to contact.

Be reliable. 

This sounds obvious, but you would be amazed how many people don’t think this through – and there are long term repercussions for being perceived as ‘unreliable’.

For example, one of the worst things you can do is agree to go on an interview and then not turn up, or arrive late. This is for two reasons. (1) It damages the impression the consultant has of you, and (2) it damages the relationship the consultant has with their client, so they won’t risk putting you forward again. Of course, unforeseen emergencies do happen occasionally, but if this is the case, let your consultant know as soon as you possibly can.

Another no-no is to arrange to meet the consultant outside of office hours and then not turn up. Many people don’t realise that recruitment consultants work long, anti-social hours. So, not turning up to a meeting with them when they have made the effort to come in even earlier/stay even later just to see you is as bad as you not going to an actual interview. It makes you look unreliable and unprofessional – which is the last thing you want.

And don’t disappear – if you are going away on holiday or will uncontactable for a period of time, let your consultant know before you go.

Give feedback.

Keeping your consultant up-to-date is vital for them to progress things for you. When you have been on an interview, let the consultant know how you got on and whether you are interested or not.

And if they approach you about a job you are not interested in, give useful feedback about it – let them know why, and reinforce what you are looking for.

By now, you might be thinking, isn’t it their job to find me a job? 

You’re right, it is, but remember they will be dealing with a lot of people and a lot of vacancies. So they will work most with the people they remember clearly, who keep in touch and who are professional and reliable at all times.  Wouldn’t you?

So be your consultant’s idea client – it’s the best way to get the fantastic job you want.

 

About Nicola Fox Dip. THP (N-SHAP)

I specialise in hypnotherapy and coaching for professional people who want to achieve their full potential.

For over 11 years, I have enabled my clients to become more confident, self-assured and better able to achieve their goals. Every therapy session is tailored specifically for each client, personalised to provide individual solutions for their issues.

I specialise in therapy and coaching for:

  • Anxiety
  • Confidence
  • Fear of public speaking, presentations and interviews
  • Imposter Syndrome
  • Motivation
  • Panic attacks
  • Phobias and fears
  • Procrastination
  • Self-esteem
  • Stress
  • Weight loss & related issues
  • Regaining confidence after a crisis – redundancy, divorce, bereavement, etc
  • Relaxation

Find out how hypnotherapy can help you.

Arrange your free, confidential 15-minute telephone consultation by going to the Contact Me tab at the top of this page.

I have hypnotherapy practices in:

London:        Islington, N1 and Liverpool Street, EC2
East Anglia: Norwich

Redundancy – How it feels

Posted by Nicola Fox on January 15, 2018  /   Posted in Confidence Hints and Tips
Hypnotherapy can help

Hypnotherapy can help

Redundancy can be a great opportunity – but it can also be a traumatic experience.

In this article, one woman describes how her experience felt like a relationship break-up.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/item/7c176ad9-8c4a-4a70-bf49-49d1e7eee203

Hypnotherapy can help you deal with the emotions a redundancy can trigger – please contact me if you would like help.  Go to the Contact Me tab at the top of this page to book your free 15-minute telephone consultation.

#Hypnotherapy #Redundancy  #Confidence

6 Tips to succeed if you really want to make a New Year’s Resolution

Posted by Nicola Fox on January 02, 2018  /   Posted in Confidence Hints and Tips
6 Tips to succeed if you really want to make a New Year’s Resolution

6 Tips to succeed if you really want to make a New Year’s Resolution

Do you like making New Year’s Resolutions – or do you think they’re a waste of time?

If you do decide to make one (or more), it’s important to think how they can make you feel better, not worse. After all, the start of a new year can be the perfect opportunity to turn over a new leaf, or at least to start thinking about what you’d like to do differently -but a failed New Year’s resolution can drain your confidence

So, if you want to make a change, and want to start this New Year, try these six tips to help make your resolutions work for you:

1.        Prioritise (don’t try to do everything at once).

It’s easy to make a list of things you want to improve and decide to do them all at once -but if you try to do too much in one go, you are more likely to fail. You are much more likely to be successful if you make a list of all the things you’d like to do, prioritise them and then concentrate on the one or two changes that are the most important to you. (You can always tackle the others later on).

2.        Focussing on the do-able makes it achievable. 

Whatever you choose to change, set yourself small goals as you go along – that way, you are being successful over and over again, giving your self-esteem a regular boost.

3.        Record all your successes (big and small) – and celebrate your progress.

Every time you achieve one of those small goals, make a note of it. Then read those notes regularly, to reinforce just how well you have done. Allowing yourself to see how far you have come will give you the motivation to keep going and be even more successful.

4.        Don’t panic. 

Be prepared for a few bumps along the way – and if one of your steps doesn’t work out straight away, don’t lose heart. Re-assess your goal, re-read your list of successes and keep going. You will get there – you just need to keep trying.

5.        Buddy up. 

Sometimes it’s easier to make a change with someone who understands what you are trying to do. So why not tell a friend or family member what you’re doing and ask them to join you.

6.        And if your resolution is to be more confident …

… have a look at my free guide to improving your confidence. Visit www.yourconfidenceexpert.co.uk/free-advice and click on the link.

Wherever you are, whatever you do – and whether you make a New Year’s Resolution or not – have a very happy and healthy New Year.

 

About Nicola Fox Dip. THP (N-SHAP)

I specialise in hypnotherapy and confidence coaching for professional people who want to achieve their full potential, either 1-2-1 or in a workshop environment.

For 12 years, I have enabled my clients to become more confident, self-assured and better able to achieve their goals.  1-2-1 packages are tailored specifically for each client, personalised to provide individual solutions for their issues.

I specialise in hypnotherapy and confidence coaching for:

  • Anxiety

  • Confidence

  • Fear of public speaking, presentations and interviews

  • Imposter Syndrome

  • Motivation

  • Phobias and fears

  • Self-esteem

  • Stress

  • Weight loss & related issues

  • Regaining confidence after a crisis – redundancy, divorce, bereavement, etc

  • Relaxation

Find out how hypnotherapy can help you.

Arrange your free, confidential 15-minute telephone consultation by going to the Contact Me tab at the top of this page.

I have hypnotherapy practices in London (Islington, N1) and Norwich.

Stop Christmas Stress!

Posted by Nicola Fox on December 02, 2017  /   Posted in Confidence Hints and Tips
6 ways to help you feel less stressed this Christmas

6 ways to help you feel less stressed this Christmas

At Christmas, we put so much effort into creating the perfect experience for family and friends, because it’s such a special time of year. But it’s a lot to live up to and sometimes it’s impossible because, when expectations are so high, it can become unrealistic.

Hypnotherapy can help you deal with stress, overcome anxiety and increase your confidence all year round, but here are some do’s and don’ts you can try at home yourself,  They work especially well at Christmas – and throughout the year too:

Do:

– Know your limits:

No-one can do everything, so decide what is essential (not everything is), what would be great to have if you have time, what would be nice but you could do without, and is just unnecessary “stuff”.

– Make a list:

You don’t need to be Wonderwoman or Superman – it’s supposed to be fun, not an endurance test. Once you’ve prioritised what is important to you, list out each item or task, think about how long it will take and give yourself a plan. Use it as a guide – and don’t be afraid to cross things off as you go along if you need to. Focus on the things that are important to you.

– Be positively practical, and practically positive:

Positive thinking is essential, especially if things aren’t turning out how you had expected them to, so concentrate on what you DO want, not what you don’t want. Look at what is possible, ask for help when you need it, delegate jobs to other people – and then let them do it their way.

Don’t:

– Don’t try to be a mind reader:

If you try to second guess what people are thinking or feeling, you’ll drive yourself frantic. Do what you think is best, and let everyone enjoy Christmas in their own way.

– Don’t compare yourself to other people:

Some people have a very lavish Christmas, other people enjoy things in a more low-key way. Both ways, and everything in between, are great. The important thing is for you to enjoy it.

– Don’t worry if things go wrong:

The pressure can be on at Christmas to make everything perfect, like something out of a Hollywood film. But real life isn’t really like that, so if something goes wrong, let it go. You never know, it might be the thing that provides you with a funny story in years to come. You know the sort of thing – “Remember when I cooked the turkey upside down!” At the time it might have felt like a disaster, but when you look back, it just adds humour to the your own personal Christmas history.

But whatever you do, wherever you are, and whatever happens, remember you did your absolute best, and that you deserve to be happy and have a wonderful time.

Happy Christmas!

P.S Remember – Hypnotherapy can help you deal with stress, overcome anxiety and increase your confidence all year round.

Find out how it can help you feel sure of yourself and your own abilities. Go to the Contact Me tab at the top of this page to book your free, confidential 15-minute telephone consultation.

About Nicola Fox Dip. THP (N-SHAP)

I specialise in hypnotherapy and coaching for professional people who want to achieve their full potential.

For 12 years, I have enabled my clients to become more confident, self-assured and better able to achieve their goals. Every therapy session is tailored specifically for each client, personalised to provide individual solutions for their issues.

I specialise in therapy and coaching for:

– Anxiety

– Confidence

– Fear of public speaking, presentations and interviews

– Imposter Syndrome

– Motivation

– Panic attacks

– Phobias and fears

– Self-esteem

– Stress

– Weight loss & related issues

– Regaining confidence after a crisis – redundancy, divorce, bereavement, etc

– Relaxation

Find out how hypnotherapy can help you.

Arrange your free, confidential 15-minute telephone consultation by going to the Contact Me tab at the top of this page.

I have hypnotherapy practices in London and East Anglia.

Be Brave! Visualise – believe – succeed

Posted by Nicola Fox on October 26, 2017  /   Posted in Confidence Hints and Tips
Visualise - believe - succeed

Visualise – believe – succeed

The successful American author Robert Collier said about achieving your goal:

“Visualise this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blue print, and begin to build.”

He’s right.  Your vision of what you are trying to achieve, as well as how you see yourself and your abilities, is absolutely crucial to your success.  Self-confidence is key.

Here’s how to get started:

  1. Decide what you are trying to achieve. 

    Of all your ambitions, which ones do you really want to achieve?

  2. Look closely at each of your chosen ambitions – What do you need?

    Identify the skills you need to acquire and the stages you need to go through to make progress.

  3. Make a plan for each goal

    Make a each stage achieveable by breaking it down into manageable steps.

  4. Take a few minutes every day to really focus on your goals 

    What have you done today to move your plans forward?

  5. As part of that focus, visualise being successful

    Imagine in detail achieving your ambition, being successful, being happy and doing what you want to do.

  6. Congratulate yourself when you make a step forward

    But don’t beat yourself up if things don’t progress as you’d wish at first.  If that happens, re-look a your plan and make adjustments – and congratulate you self on being able to act and adapt.

    So start to be confident in yourself and begin to build.

About Nicola Fox Dip. THP (N-SHAP)

I specialise in hypnotherapy for professional people who want to achieve their full potential.

For 12 years, I have enabled my clients to become more confident, self-assured and better able to achieve their goals. Every therapy session is tailored specifically for each client, personalised to provide individual solutions for their issues.

I specialise in hypnotherapy for:

  • Anxiety
  • Confidence
  • Fear of public speaking, presentations and interviews
  • Imposter Syndrome
  • Motivation
  • Panic attacks
  • Phobias and fears
  • Self-esteem
  • Stress
  • Weight loss & related issues
  • Regaining confidence after a crisis – redundancy, divorce, bereavement, etc
  • Relaxation

Find out how hypnotherapy can help you.

Arrange your free, confidential 15-minute telephone consultation by going to the Contact Me tab at the top of this page.

I have hypnotherapy practices in London (Islington, N1) and Norwich.

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